7 Ways To Get Unstuck
by Lorna Levy
We are always creating our reality by our thoughts.
Energy is always flowing where we give our attention. When we
feel we are ‘stuck’, we are unconsciously re-creating
the same situation for our selves over and over. It is like a
car that is stuck in snow – the wheels are moving, the engine
is revving, and the car is digging itself in deeper where it is.
There is lots of activity going on, just no forward motion.
When we feel ‘stuck’ we are there because we are
focused more on the lack of what we want than we are on the having
of what we want. We are looking at frustration, and at ‘not
yet having’. What we look at is what we get. We are looking
at, and fretting about, the situation as it is. That is not where
we want to look. We already know we don’t want the situation
as it is; we want it to be different. But the only way it can
become different is if we ‘live’ in the feeling place
of having attained it.
OK, how do we do that? When we look at ‘what is’,
we are just spinning our wheels and digging ourselves in deeper
where we don’t want to be. We have to look at what we want.
One: Start by thinking about your goal or desire. Let yourself
relax into the feeling of having it or experiencing it. If it
is more money, how will you feel as you spend it? If it is a relationship,
feel yourself smiling at your partner and laughing at something
only the two of you find funny. Is it a new job? Feel your pride
as your boss tells you how wonderful you are.
Begin to ask yourself how you will feel when all is the way you
want it to be? What will you be doing?
Two: Then ask yourself why you want it. What other wonderful
things will this lead to? How will your life be better? Spend some
time focusing on that. Being in the feeling or with the feeling
is the energy that brings it to you. Don’t give any thought
to the fact that you don’t have it yet, just think about how
it will feel when you do.
Three: Say to yourself, “Wouldn’t it be nice if . . .”
and let yourself daydream all kinds of wonderful things for yourself.
Say, “Isn’t it wonderful that . . .” and pretend
that it has all come to pass exactly the way you want it. This
softens the resistance around your desire and lets it begin to
enter your world. Don’t worry about the future tense of
the words, just concentrate on the feelings you have with these
statements. What you are doing here is softening your vibration
of ‘not having’. If you find yourself feeling a joyful
anticipation, you are doing this right.
Four: Look around
you for examples of others who have, or are doing what, you want.
If they can do it, so can you. How do you think they are feeling?
What are they thinking to have or experience that? See evidence
of it happening around you. Notice that the Universe can provide
it in many ways to many people. Look for signs of its coming.
Do you look around at others and feel ‘not good enough’?
One of the major reasons our manifestations are limited are our
feelings of unworthiness. It is our own lack of self love that
restricts our joyfull-ness.
Five: Start a BOPPA – a book of positive, personal aspects
of yourself. Get a pretty notebook with blank pages. Write down
all the wonderful things you can think of about yourself. No matter
how small or how insignificant, write them down. Every day, come
back to it and add a few more. You can write things like, “I
listened to my brother on the phone today while he was complaining,”
or “My fingernails are clean and neat.” or “I’m
proud of myself for being patient with that sales clerk when I
really wanted to bite her head off”. As you read these back
to yourself, you will find you liking yourself more. And as you
like yourself more, you will find your manifestations come easier.
Six: Do a focus wheel. Draw a circle in the center of a piece
of paper. In the center write the thought you want to feel better
about. It can be as simple as “I want to move toward my
goal”, or it can be more specific, like, “My leg is
healed.” Then, around that circle, like spokes of a wheel,
start writing statements supporting your goal or desire. Radiate
them out like numbers on a clock. Go around the wheel, writing
reasons why you know your goal is coming, or why you want it,
or evidence you’ve seen that encourages you. “For
over an hour today, my leg felt fine.” “I can stand
longer than I used to.” “My body knows just how to
heal itself.” “The rest of my body is in perfect health.”
“Perfect health can be in my leg, too” When you are
finished writing, go around the circle and read what you wrote,
allowing yourself to feel the relief of it. By the time you are
finished, you will have spent quite a few minutes focused on why
the statement in the center is true. You will have substantially
lessened your resistance, moving from your ‘stuck’
feeling into expectation.
Seven: Soothe yourself. Talk to yourself as if you are speaking
to your inner two year old. Say things like, “Even though
I don’t have it yet, I know I’m getting closer,”
and “Good things always happen to me,” and “I’m
becoming more conscious of the vibration I put out and as I do,
I’m creating more of what I want”. Be gentle. Be kind
to yourself. Remind yourself that the Universe is always giving,
and that good is the natural order of things.
The common thread in all of these exercises is that they focus
on the joy of having, doing or being what you want for more than
17 seconds. It takes 17 seconds for an idea to draw a similar
idea to it. The longer you can hold your thought on your desires,
the faster they will manifest. Focus on the joy. The joy will
pull your desires to you.
Copyright 2006 Lorna Levy All rights reserved.
Lorna maintains an international Law of Attraction Coaching practice,
teaching the principles of Abraham-Hicks. From time to time she
has openings for new clients. If you would like some help in consciously
using the law of attraction in your life with ease, contact her
through her website: http://www.thelawofattractionteacher.com